We Are Family


Now that I have been in my current position at work for one year, I have accumulated enough holiday and vacation time to be able to use when I want and need time off from work.  Today, since my daughters had off of school in honor of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, I decided to take the day off, as well, to spend with them.  As I wrote in yesterday’s post, I took them on a surprise overnight trip, and this morning, we came home and spent a nice, peaceful, relaxing day together.  I did this as much for myself as I did for them, as one of the goals I am working on is learning to take time off from work.  I tend to feel the need to be accessible 24/7 and have been known to return e-mails in the wee hours of the morning or send out e-mails on the weekend.  It is one of my compulsive tendencies, and I am working on changing that.  Today, I responded to two e-mails from colleagues before I made the decision that unless it was an absolute emergency, then everything else could and would wait until tomorrow morning when I return to work.  It felt uncomfortable at first to ignore the other work-related e-mails, but then, it felt liberating to guard my time off and to spend it focused on myself and my family.  I am off the clock at work and on the ball at home, and today, that feels really good.

I am ending the day off by making dinner for my daughters and my ex-husband, which, if you have heard about my cooking, may not sound like I am doing something very positive for them at all.  I definitely am far from a culinary expert, but there are a handful of dishes that I feel confident in making that will satiate hunger and not cause food poisoning, one of them being a “clean” recipe for “Confetti Chili”.  It is healthy, hearty, and delicious, and it is sure to hit the spot on a bitter cold evening.  My girls love it, as does their dad, so, I invited him to join us when he and our younger daughter return from basketball practice tonight.  As I have detailed in previous posts, my ex-husband and I have a very healthy, loving, and strong relationship, and we are committed to being the best ex-spouses and parents that we can be.  Our daughters have adjusted very well to our divorce, and we still do things together as a family of four, like attend our daughters’ sporting events and school activities, share a meal, celebrate special occasions, etc.  It always means a great deal to all of us to still be able to share these times together, so, to be able to host tonight’s family dinner, because we are still very much a family indeed, is truly the best thing I can do for them today.  It is a small, but meaningful, gesture, and my fingers are crossed, for everyone’s sake, that I have good karma in the kitchen.

Just one thing each day . . .

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