I have not been a fan of Plan B. It always has had such a negative connotation associated with it. Second rate. Second choice. Second best. It is one of those things that we tell ourselves is a perfectly acceptable option, except I could never get past one thing. If it were such a great plan, it would have been Plan A, not the alternate plan. Plan B might as well have been Plan Blah. Until recently.
Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant challenged my notion about the dreaded Plan B. On page 13, Sheryl wrote this paragraph that altered how I view the Plan Bs that I have been sparring with over the course of this past year:
Just weeks after losing Dave, I was talking to Phil about a father-child activity. We came up with a plan for someone to fill in for Dave. I cried to Phil, “But I want Dave.” He put his arm around me and said, “Option A is not available. So let’s just kick the shit out of Option B.”
This struck a chord with me. Suddenly, my Plan Bs seemed more bad ass than blah. I may not have had a say in the demise of my Plan As, but I did have a say in how I would, nd could, handle my Plan Bs. And kicking the shit out of them felt much more empowering than settling for something I did not necessarily want.
2017 will go down as the year of great change for me. As I prepare to close out this year, I have been focused on letting go of all that no longer serves me well. This is so much easier said than done, as I tend to be a bit stubborn and loyal to a fault, even when Option A is not available.
I am slowly learning to construct an available plan and accept that Plan B may not be Plan A, but it needn’t be. Plan B will never replace Plan A, but it can, and does, have a place in life. There is something to be learned from failed or changed plans, and sometimes, the back-up plan is what leads you to where you were meant to be all along.
The 2017 and Plan A farewells continue, and I am looking forward to new plans, both A and B, in the new year. No matter what the plan is, you better believe that I am going to kick the shit out of it.
That’s another story . . .
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